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Steps to Improve your Confidence with Women

04 Aug

Steps to Improve your Confidence with Women

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Almost every man has been in the situation where he has spotted an attractive woman and wonders whether he should make an approach – if he’s confident, he probably will, but if he lacks confidence he will probably talk himself out of approaching with any number of excuses. Would you like to have the confidence to approach an attractive woman? Of course you would – so read on!

Lack of confidence with women usually starts during those awkward teenage years. It’s more than likely you were hurt, sometimes badly – lied to, dumped, let down, or had your heart and feelings shattered. You may have taken that to heart and began to believe you weren’t ‘good enough’ for a woman. The same can happen to men in long term relationships that have gone ‘sour’ where constant criticism can take its toll.

Teenage girls can be very hurtful, but like you, they are full of powerful hormones they are unfamiliar with and haven’t quite learnt how to control – forgive every girl, or woman, who has hurt you and do it right now. Repeat after me, “I forgive every female who has hurt me to date,” and mean it. OK, I hope that felt better – that’s less baggage to carry around.

I won’t lie to you; women are attracted to confident men and despise weak men, so if you want to get into the relationship game you need be show confidence! If you want a female partner, only you can woo her, and I mean that in all sincerity.

Confidence is a state of mind, and can be improved for every male on the planet. Start with personal grooming – shower before going out, use deodorant, hair washed and brushed or combed, finger nails done, clothes that are appropriate and fit – women notice things like that, especially footwear. She made an effort and expects you to as well and you will feel more confident.

Next is state of mind – you must believe you will have a good time and will be successful – walk, talk, smile  and carry yourself confidently – act like you are having a great time – it’s body language that she will notice. Think of the James Bond character here – Sean Connery was voted the sexist man alive by women of all ages, races and cultures – adapt what you can into your lifestyle.

Next is body image – you must have a good body image to be successful with women. Women tend to prefer larger men as they feel protected, they also prefer muscular men for the same reason, but most of all they want a confident, successful man. If you have a persistent problem with your body image do something to fix it and if you can’t, get professional help – get a life or relationship coach for the quickest, simplest remedy.

So that’s all the preparation you can do, but to get to know a woman you have to talk to her. This is where even the toughest men turn to jelly – fear overtakes them and they run away. Their ‘inner voice’ gives them every excuse why they should not approach the woman. Fear is inbuilt in all humans and there to protect us from danger, but on this occasion we have to thank our fears and act despite them. If you need practice starting talking to strangers while you are out – just smile and say ‘hi’ – it doesn’t matter what they do – most will return your smile and some will reply.

Women know who is ‘checking them out’; they are waiting to see who has the courage to come up and talk to them – she doesn’t think she is scary at all – quite the opposite – she often thinks she is the most approachable woman in the world. Some will respond to your smiles and ‘eye signals’ and some won’t, but she will be aware of what you do. Women won’t wait forever, if you don’t approach her within approximately 5 minutes, she will write you off as either not interested or not worthy of her time.

Ok, so you see her, and are interested. Follow these steps. Smile at her and see if she smiles back – she may or she may not. She will usually be with at least one girlfriend, but no matter – walk up to her, so she can see you are coming, look confident, (stand tall) and smile and say, “I couldn’t help notice you and I had to come over and say hi.” This isn’t cheesy, but is complimentary. You’ve done your bit it’s now up to her, but have a plan in mind. Women usually don’t want confrontation, but she will usually respond and probably smile back. Talk about the place where you are, keep it light – flirt, tease, flirt – show her your sense of humour, compliment her if you get the chance and find out what you might have in common, or who you both know. Ask for her number, she will expect that, she may or may not give you her number. Don’t take it as rejection – approach other women. Unless things are going really well, excuse yourself after about 15 minutes, and let her see you talking to other women. She may come up to you later in the evening and chat again, and if so, you may get the chance to ask her out, but ensure you always look like you are having a great time.

Like all males, you will have successes and disasters – it’s a learning process, but each time you win your confidence will improve, and despite what your inner voice will tell you, you will win more times than you lose! As the old saying goes, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess!”

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