The One Simple Trick To Get Dates With Attractive Women

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Confidence is the trick – women can’t resist a confident man. Almost all women dream of being swept off their feet by a man; in fact many women have a secret desire to be kidnapped and held captive by the man of their dreams. Contrast that to the approach from a man lacking confidence – “Excuse me Miss, but would you mind if I spoke to you and asked you out?” Can you see how this won’t ‘cut it’ with a woman. She wants to ‘look up’ to you. She wants you to be bold, take risks, be a winner, protect her and sweep her off her feet with your confidence and charm. Unfortunately she has watched, and possibly read, many romantic movies and novels and you are going to be judged accordingly!

Confidence is very important, but it’s not something you can rely on – it ebbs and flows depending on what’s happening in your life. Generally if things are going well you will feel more confident, especially after even a minor ‘win’, but your confidence will be sapped if things aren’t going well or when you have just suffered a loss. This is being human – everyone is the same – just like one memory helps you remember another, one emotion triggers another. If you have a win then you will feel great – your confidence soars, so here are a few tips to raise and keep your confidence at a high level.

Even the most confident people have confidence lapses, but find ways to get themselves up. One of the ways to regain your confidence after a minor lapse is to find a cause outside you – the little voice inside our brain loves to make you the scapegoat – don’t succumb. There are many other possible reasons things didn’t go the way you planned – use one of those reasons, rather than put yourself down and plunge yourself into a downward confidence cycle. Let’s say you finally managed to talk to a woman you really liked, but she was cool to you and cut the conversation short. Most men will assume the woman has no interest, and she may not, but there could be other reasons – she may have been in a mood, it could be her time of the month, she may be playing ‘hard to get’, she may have been late for an appointment, there could be things going on in her life, she may be just shy, she may be still ‘getting over’ her last relationship – ad infinitum. You’ve done the hard thing – you approached her – give her another chance and see how you go – if you get the same reaction then it’s fairly safe to assume she has no interest in you, but that’s a good thing – she may have ‘strung’ you along, you know one more woman, you have gained another experience, and there are always plenty of other women available. Don’t start self deriding about how you aren’t this, that and the other – it’s a waste of time and energy and mostly baseless!

Hang out with confident people. Don’t mix with people who sap your confidence, or make a habit of putting you down, or reminding you of your past mistakes or shortcomings. Some people delight in pulling you down, sometimes even siblings or other family members. You can choose your friends, but you have to work out a way to politely ignore family members who dent your confidence.

Live life honourably, treat people with respect, be tactful, but avoid lying, be prepared to give as well as receive as all this determines your self esteem, and that has a large influence on your confidence.

Compliment yourself when you have done something you planned, had even a minor win, had an achievement, and avoid putting yourself down – be aware of the little voice in your brain that constantly talks to you – train yourself to avoid negative comments.

Practice taking small risks with people and situations, setting yourself up for a win, without jeopardising other people. This will give you that ‘winning’ feeling and you will start identifying as a winner.

Practice talking to women – don’t be apologetic, but don’t be rude, talk to them, practice using charm, practice giving them compliments, practice making them blush, but nicely – it will build your confidence. Practice talking to them when you are alone – talk into a mirror – act the part until you get it ‘spot on’, then when the opportunity arises it will be natural to you, just like an actor playing a part.

Women want to feel special – practice that – each time you do, your will feel a little more powerful around women – you caused a reaction

Don’t be afraid of women – they can sense fear at 1000 paces – they don’t want a fearful, timid man. Show them you ‘fancy’ them – almost every woman wants attention – it will make you more attractive to them

Women aren’t naturally risk takers, but they are attracted to men who take risks and win – opposites attract. Just like feminine women are attracted to masculine men.

Have something to offer, know what it is and market yourself. When you know what you have to offer a woman you will feel more confident. Women want a myriad of things, so there is usually something you have to offer that she wants. She can see your exterior, the way you dress (shoes are important to women), and your demeanour, she can tell by your language your degree of education, she can make a guess about your attitude by the way you speak – don’t whinge, she can estimate your communication abilities, and she can gauge your confidence, by where you look and she has already checked out your manhood , but outside that she is no mind reader, so tell her what you have to offer. Mention all your good to great qualities – anytime you won, even on a team, whether you are reliable, dependable, a man of your word, your ambitions (in brief), and what you are looking for in the longer term – children, career, travel etc.

So to sum up.

A man’s confidence is important to a woman – most find it very attractive.

A man can raise and manage his confidence and so, become more appealing to a woman.

By hanging out with confident people and giving a wide berth to those that sap confidence.

By living your life honourably.

By complimenting yourself when you do good and avoiding negative self talk.

By taking small risks and setting yourself to win.

By practicing talking to women, even when alone.

By making women feel special.

By being a risk taker and winning.

By knowing what you have to offer.

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Good luck on your journey.

6 Steps Every Man Can Use To Find The Woman Of His Dreams

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Here are 6 steps to assist you to find the woman of your dreams.

1 Don’t trust to luck

There are many well meaning people who give false advice to guys. I’m sure phrases like, ‘love will come along at the right time’, ‘you can’t hurry love’ and a whole host of other myths and folklore were started in an attempt to ease the pain of someone who had either lost a love or was still ‘on the shelf’ way beyond the acceptable age for the time. These are misleading, to say the least. Adopt these sayings at your peril! You must be proactive – sure some guys will find love easily, but that’s not the norm – you may find you get attention from females, but will that relationships last the distance?

2 Know what you are looking for.

Do you want just any partner? Short term, yes, as you want to get experience, play the field and ‘sow your oats’, but long term is a different proposition.

Let’s start with interests – common interests. As a rule of thumb, you need a match of around 80% (the Pareto Principle, more commonly known as the 80/20 rule). Where you meet will usually have something to do with common interests, but not always – think holiday romances. So you like sport, betting on the horses with your mates in the pub on a Saturday afternoon; she is dead against gambling of any sort, hates sport and likes ballet – not much hope here, but she has the face of an angel and a body to die for… hormonal attraction! Make a list of your interests and then rank them – with those you can’t live without at the top. These are some things to discuss on a date.

Next, picture your life in 10, 20, 30 years – we all have these images – it’s what we expect to happen. Write down this image, including your career, where you would like to live (by the sea or in a rural setting), and the location (overseas, in the city – which city? – or the suburbs). Would you like to live close or far away from family, what kind of house (single or multistorey) would it be? Do you want a pool, billiard room or study (office) or not? And how about children (several or none), your social life (busy or quiet), lifestyle (out socialising or quiet at home), type of car (sports, sedan or commercial), type of furniture (antique or contemporary), number of TVs and where they are situated, movies you like to watch, the sound system, the type of heating and cooling, and so on. Younger people have these images, but assume (ass – u – me) makes an ass out of you and me, and it can be bitterly disappointing when they discover their partner hates their choice.

OK, next is lifestyle. Funding or money – lack of money is the #1 bone of contention in many families and causes untold arguments. How are you going to fund your lifestyle? Are both partners going to work, are you an investor or a consumer, do you save or live from week to week? Do you have separate or joint bank accounts, credit or debit cards or both? What about debt – mortgages, personal loans, family loans, lines of credit, holidays, overseas, local, intrastate, visiting family, trekking, relaxing – who’s going to be responsible for paying the bills. Are you going to share 50/50 from a joint bank account or make other arrangements? And how about personal spending money? Yes or no to big nights out with the family, friends, colleagues, then there’s social media, subscriptions to streaming services, as well as magazines, or book clubs. What happens if you win or are bequeathed a sum of money? And so it goes on – being ‘broke’ or in serious debt is no fun!

Cultural and religious issues are the #2 bone of contention. If you decide to be formally married. Where and how will that occur? What about parents, family members and in-laws? Will they be visited, be invited to your house, and if so, how often? Do you attend religious services? If so, how often, and what about religious periods – Lent for Catholics and Ramadan for Muslims. Then there are donations and tithing to religious organisations, will your children become part of those religious organisations and will they be expected to take part in the rites of that organisation? And what about volunteering for a religious organisation? How often will you do it, and what about visits to holy sites (like Mecca and Rome). And if you are from different religions, whose moral code will you follow? And so it goes on. If you are from different cultural backgrounds, make sure you exchange your expectations in writing to each other.

Values and communication – we all have a fairly rigid set of values, mostly passed down from our parents, and culture and mismatches can easily occur. You may be tolerant towards certain sections of the community and your partner may not; you may prefer honesty over everything; your partner may say anything to escape scrutiny. Write a list of your values down and get your partner to do the same and exchange them. There is a good list of values here https://personaldevelopfit.com/list-of-values/

How you communicate is also important. People have their own preferred ways to communicate – the 3 most common are Visual, Auditory and Kinaesthetic. Mismatches and misunderstanding can easily occur – a visual person will often say something like, “Yes I see that,” an auditory person will often say, “Yes, I hear that,” and a kinaesthetic person will often say, “Yes, I feel that.” Words can also have different meanings in different countries and cultures. Regardless of how hard you try, there will always be miscommunications, especially when emotions get involved in communication. When this happens, apologise and listen to your female partner – she needs to be heard and can fix her own problems.

3 Your interests, aspirations, lifestyle and values will guide you to know where to look.

Women are physically weaker than we males, and very vulnerable when they are pregnant or have young children. They know this and so they are on the lookout for a male who they think will protect them and stay with them. Women are also attracted to winners – this gives them the best chance of survival and the best genes for their offspring. This is biological, not rational. If you go to a boxing or wrestling match you will see women, also at the footy. She wants to see who is the strongest.  Your best chance of meeting the woman of your dreams is places where you are a winner – where you stand out – she will notice. So if you are a great Scrabble player and can win the championship do that rather than go somewhere where you are mediocre or very weak – you’ll face an uphill battle. Women are also attracted to leaders – she wants someone strong, so she will notice if you are leading a group.

Every guy can excel at something – go to those places where you are a winner – she will notice.

4 Know what you have to offer

Women are looking for the best deal they can get in the quest for a partner, just like a man. This is different for every woman, but usually she wants a ‘good man’, someone who is faithful, reliable and supportive, someone who she can talk to, enjoy his company, laugh, have fun, share interests, set up a home with, maybe start a family, have holidays, maybe maintain her career, and hope all her childhood dreams come true. She doesn’t always get everything she wants, but she usually has a good idea of what she wants and knows what she has to offer.

Men usually aren’t so specific, and look for attractiveness, which can be misleading; better to match interests, aspirations, lifestyle and values for a better match. Knowing what you want and communicating that to a future partner will give her the opportunity to make a better decision. However, knowing what you have to offer will not only increase your confidence, but will also serve to get you a better ‘deal’ in the long run.

5 Prepare and practice

If you are a member of a sporting team you will train and practice and a coach gives you strategic tips. If you are a trainee, apprentice or a Uni student you learn all you can about your chosen career. This can take up to 7 years with some professions and yet most men do nothing to prepare themselves for a relationship that could last more than 50 years, and can cost heaps in terms of emotional hurt and financial loss.

Life does not come with a manual – it’s a trial and error journey, which in itself is fraught with danger. Sure, we get information off our parents, peers, advisors, books and Google, but no one questions where this knowledge or advice originated from.

Wouldn’t it be more sensible to make some preparations, take some responsibility, and make your own choices about a potential partner you may be with for over 50 years? Of course it would, so see next step.

6 Approach her.

Many men suffer from fear when they see an attractive woman, and this is justifiable, they are emotional and no one wants to risk rejection, but if you are to meet and date an attractive woman it’s a risk you have to take. She doesn’t think she is scary at all – quite the opposite – she often thinks she is the most approachable woman in the world. Some will respond to your smiles and ‘eye signals’ and some won’t, but she will be aware of what you do. Women won’t wait forever, if you don’t approach her within approximately 5 minutes, she will write you off as either not interested or not worthy of her time.

Ok, so you see her, and are interested. Follow these steps. Smile at her and see if she smiles back – she may or she may not. She will usually be with at least one girlfriend, but no matter – walk up to her, so she can see you are coming, look confident, (stand tall) and smile and say, “I couldn’t help notice you and I had to come over and say hi.” This isn’t cheesy, but is complimentary. You’ve done your bit it’s now up to her, but have a plan in mind. Women usually don’t want confrontation, but she will usually respond and probably smile back. Talk about the place where you are, keep it light – flirt, tease, flirt – show her your sense of humour, compliment her if you get the chance and find out what you might have in common, or who you both know. Ask for her number, she will expect that, but she may or may not give you her number. Don’t take it as rejection – approach other women. Unless things are going really well, excuse yourself after about 15 minutes, and let her see you talking to other women. She may come up to you later in the evening and chat again, and if so, you may get the chance to ask her out, but ensure you always look like you are having a great time.

For more information get this FREE eBook https://ayd.net.au/books-and-offers/

Good luck on your journey.

11 Tips for Getting a Date with an Attractive Woman

 

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Almost every man has been in the situation where he has spotted an attractive woman and wonders whether he should make an approach – if he’s confident, he probably will, but if he lacks confidence he will probably talk himself out of approaching with any number of excuses. Would you like to have the confidence to approach an attractive woman? Of course you would, so here are 11 ways to make the approach easier – so read on!

  • Grooming and confidence

When you look good, you normally feel good about yourself, so this helps raise your confidence. She is looking for a confident man – someone she can rely on, someone successful (however she defines that), someone who will be there for her, someone who adores her and makes her feel special – how do you rate on this?

  • Know something about her – check Social media

If you know her name check her out on Social media – look at her interests, where she goes, look at her friends – do you have any common interests or friends in common? If you don’t know her name ask her – she will know you are making an effort to get to know her.

  • Have something to give, rather than wanting something

Know what you have to offer in relation to what she wants – see above. No less than you she is not a mind reader, so at least hint you have something to offer. If she sees you are having a good time and enjoying yourself that’s something she will want. In addition, depending on where you meet her, she may want to have a good time, indulge her. She may be busy – make it brief, but make your meeting memorable.

  • Show her you’re interested – that makes you more attractive

If you show her you are interested you have the chance of appearing more attractive to her as people tend to like those who like them. She may or may not show interest – some women will and some won’t. Regardless of your interest no progress can be made until you actually talk to her – she wants you to be bold and confident – don’t disappoint her.

  • Approach her where you star or lead a group

If you get the opportunity it’s best to approach her where you are a winner or a leader. Women are naturally attracted to both. Every man excels at something, so wherever you excel or lead a group is the place to approach her.

  • Don’t hesitate.

Women are impatient and won’t wait forever for you to approach. She may have several suitors in the vicinity, but nothing will happen until someone approaches (women will rarely approach a man they don’t know or feel very confident they won’t be rejected). Approach from an angle she can see you approaching, if you startle her she may become very defensive and reject you out of hand.

  • Be confident, nonchalant and don’t put stress on yourself – make it an all or nothing venture

As you approach her show you are confident – smile, stand erect, and look at her while you speak. She has been lied to before, no doubt, so if you look away or down it could be misinterpreted. It’s not an all or nothing situation so don’t put stress on yourself. Like everything else in life practice makes perfect and the more you practice and become polished the more success you will have.

  • Opening gambit –– practice these 14 words

Once you are there you need to start a conversation – you can use these words, “I couldn’t help notice you and I had to come over and say hi.” You have done all you can, it’s up to her to respond. She may or may not respond positively. If she does keep it light smile, flirt, tease, flirt. Women will rarely cause a scene – most don’t like confrontation – she is more likely to excuse herself and move away. Regardless of what happens remain calm and be polite. Say something like, “Nice to meet you anyway.” There are any number of reasons unconnected to your approach why she may not have responded positively – don’t take is personally. Chat to other women in the area.

  • Ask for her number and make it obvious you want a date

If you get the opportunity show her you find her attractive and want to get to know her. Ask for her number – she will expect that – she may or may not give it to you. Use the same approach as above.

  • Be strong

An attractive woman gets many offers from men and it’s impossible to accept them all. Just like you she has a mental picture of what she is looking for and it just could be you, so unless she is obviously attached make the effort to approach her – at the very least its practice and experience. Women have a tendency to test a man, even after they form a relationship, so be strong.

  • Have a plan – ask her out somewhere specific – not just would you like to meet

Whether you phone her to make a date or you get the opportunity to suggest a date when you meet her always ensure you have a plan. Women complain about this – they want you to take the lead – you are the one asking her out. Early in the dating process you need a place so you can talk and find out what you have in common, people you both know, check commonality in values, lifestyles, and a myriad of other things. Some where she doesn’t have to commit to long periods of time and where she can excuse herself if things aren’t going well is best. Coffee shops, walks, lunches etc.

Like all males, you will have successes and disasters – it’s a learning process, but each time you win your confidence will improve, and despite what your inner voice will tell you, you will win more times than you lose! As the old saying goes, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess!”

For more information get this FREE eBook https://ayd.net.au/books-and-offers/

Good luck on your journey.

Steps to Improve your Confidence with Women

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Almost every man has been in the situation where he has spotted an attractive woman and wonders whether he should make an approach – if he’s confident, he probably will, but if he lacks confidence he will probably talk himself out of approaching with any number of excuses. Would you like to have the confidence to approach an attractive woman? Of course you would – so read on!

Lack of confidence with women usually starts during those awkward teenage years. It’s more than likely you were hurt, sometimes badly – lied to, dumped, let down, or had your heart and feelings shattered. You may have taken that to heart and began to believe you weren’t ‘good enough’ for a woman. The same can happen to men in long term relationships that have gone ‘sour’ where constant criticism can take its toll.

Teenage girls can be very hurtful, but like you, they are full of powerful hormones they are unfamiliar with and haven’t quite learnt how to control – forgive every girl, or woman, who has hurt you and do it right now. Repeat after me, “I forgive every female who has hurt me to date,” and mean it. OK, I hope that felt better – that’s less baggage to carry around.

I won’t lie to you; women are attracted to confident men and despise weak men, so if you want to get into the relationship game you need be show confidence! If you want a female partner, only you can woo her, and I mean that in all sincerity.

Confidence is a state of mind, and can be improved for every male on the planet. Start with personal grooming – shower before going out, use deodorant, hair washed and brushed or combed, finger nails done, clothes that are appropriate and fit – women notice things like that, especially footwear. She made an effort and expects you to as well and you will feel more confident.

Next is state of mind – you must believe you will have a good time and will be successful – walk, talk, smile  and carry yourself confidently – act like you are having a great time – it’s body language that she will notice. Think of the James Bond character here – Sean Connery was voted the sexist man alive by women of all ages, races and cultures – adapt what you can into your lifestyle.

Next is body image – you must have a good body image to be successful with women. Women tend to prefer larger men as they feel protected, they also prefer muscular men for the same reason, but most of all they want a confident, successful man. If you have a persistent problem with your body image do something to fix it and if you can’t, get professional help – get a life or relationship coach for the quickest, simplest remedy.

So that’s all the preparation you can do, but to get to know a woman you have to talk to her. This is where even the toughest men turn to jelly – fear overtakes them and they run away. Their ‘inner voice’ gives them every excuse why they should not approach the woman. Fear is inbuilt in all humans and there to protect us from danger, but on this occasion we have to thank our fears and act despite them. If you need practice starting talking to strangers while you are out – just smile and say ‘hi’ – it doesn’t matter what they do – most will return your smile and some will reply.

Women know who is ‘checking them out’; they are waiting to see who has the courage to come up and talk to them – she doesn’t think she is scary at all – quite the opposite – she often thinks she is the most approachable woman in the world. Some will respond to your smiles and ‘eye signals’ and some won’t, but she will be aware of what you do. Women won’t wait forever, if you don’t approach her within approximately 5 minutes, she will write you off as either not interested or not worthy of her time.

Ok, so you see her, and are interested. Follow these steps. Smile at her and see if she smiles back – she may or she may not. She will usually be with at least one girlfriend, but no matter – walk up to her, so she can see you are coming, look confident, (stand tall) and smile and say, “I couldn’t help notice you and I had to come over and say hi.” This isn’t cheesy, but is complimentary. You’ve done your bit it’s now up to her, but have a plan in mind. Women usually don’t want confrontation, but she will usually respond and probably smile back. Talk about the place where you are, keep it light – flirt, tease, flirt – show her your sense of humour, compliment her if you get the chance and find out what you might have in common, or who you both know. Ask for her number, she will expect that, she may or may not give you her number. Don’t take it as rejection – approach other women. Unless things are going really well, excuse yourself after about 15 minutes, and let her see you talking to other women. She may come up to you later in the evening and chat again, and if so, you may get the chance to ask her out, but ensure you always look like you are having a great time.

Like all males, you will have successes and disasters – it’s a learning process, but each time you win your confidence will improve, and despite what your inner voice will tell you, you will win more times than you lose! As the old saying goes, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess!”

For more information get this FREE eBook https://ayd.net.au/books-and-offers/ Good luck on your journey.

Never Eat Alone Again

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

The name of this blog is very similar to a book called Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi –there is no connection, but the book is worth reading.

Another weekend approaches and you have made no plans, so at best it’s TV reruns and meals alone and at worse self medicating with alcohol, drugs and porn – not the most exciting. I suppose you can rationalise and say, “Who cares?” But deep down YOU care – very few humans choose to be alone.

This begs the question, why are you alone? Why haven’t you got a girlfriend or partner? Can you answer those questions honestly?

After talking to many men over the years it usually boils down to one of 2 things – either you have self limiting beliefs or you are scared – fear has you by the balls!

So let’s look at self limiting beliefs – they usually go something like this, “I’m not rich enough, good looking enough, thin or fat enough, short or tall enough, I don’t have the right pad, I don’t make enough money, I don’t have a good enough job and so it goes on. All of these are EXCUSES. Yes, I know some of you have tried and been hurt, used, abused, taken to the cleaners, or have lost everything. So what are you going to do about that – curl up in a corner and withdraw from the world? Good luck with that – your own body will produce strong chemicals to keep reminding you to find a mate. So are you willing to try? If yes read on, if know – bye and I wish you luck – come back when you feel better.

Most of the above excuses are fear based and hide the real reason – you don’t want to be rejected, you don’t want to be hurt again, you are shy, you have an inferiority complex, or you just don’t know how to approach and talk to a woman – avoiding it won’t help – believe me!

Dating is one of the very few things in life we have to do alone, and a woman is looking for a man with confidence (you can employ the services of an Agency, and if you do that, you will be limited to the women they have on their books). So time to face your fears and improve your life – right?

Ok, so let’s start. Have you ever asked yourself the question, “What is a woman looking for?” Yes, what was your answer? No, why not – ask yourself now! Most women are looking for the same thing you are – a relationship, but she wants someone to protect her (she knows she is vulnerable at certain times and when she is pregnant or has small children), be there for her, be reliable, and be dependable. Can you do those things – sure you can! She wants the best deal she can find – just the same as you do, but where you might use attractiveness, she uses confidence as one of her measures – how do you rate? Probably not that well, but that can be fixed.

Confidence is a state of mind, and there will be times you feel and act confidently – can you find those times? When you do – is there an opportunity to meet a woman during one of those times? Many times there is, but unless you are absolutely sure of the harassment policy at your place of work, do not approach a woman there – if you like her invite her to meet outside work and ask her out then. If she refuses leave it there – it’s not worth risking your income, if she accepts, understand that there could be ‘fallout’ if the relationship ends.

Confidence is the sum total of how you feel about yourself, and includes how you rate yourself on everything about you – this includes your history, including your school performance, your looks, stature, attractiveness, achievements, job, your income, social status, friends, sporting prowess, the car you drive, the place you live and many many more indicators. Be easy on yourself, talk to yourself nicely (watch the internal chatter – it’s mostly negative and incessant), and don’t compare yourself, especially to someone way outside your ‘league’. You can make instant improvements for a modest investment – think of hair, clothes, grooming, stature, fitness, interests, places you go, friends and potential friends for a start. If you want a better income, get a better paying position or even a 2nd job. If it’s the job, then work out what you want, study and apply until you get the job. If it’s a better place to live, then rent in a better suburb, or renovate your house. If it’s the way you look then start a gym program, lose weight, get in shape. If it’s the way your spend your time try different interests and hobbies. Every time you achieve something your self esteem and confidence will rise. If you have a persistent problem that you can’t solve yourself invest in a professional – get a coach, see a doctor, even cosmetic surgery is not out of the question. Money is a poor substitute for happiness, and most people feel more contented with a relationship than with money. Most humans (certainly greater than 90%) crave to share their life with a significant other – why should you settle for less?

For more information get this FREE eBook https://ayd.net.au/books-and-offers/

Good luck on your journey.

Relationship Advice For Men: 62 Tips From 62 Experts

Guys are often left shaking their heads in pure bewilderment when it comes to different aspects of their relationship.  Their wives, girlfriends, or partners of some sort or another, just seem to constantly throw curveball after curveball at them, and their left wondering what to do.

Without giving up on their loved ones, they fight back; but this often leads to more stress and even more relationship imbalance.

You see men aren’t schooled in this department of life. We spend years going to grammar school and learning about math, science, history, and multitudes of other important topics, but we never really learn the most important one of all, relationships. Whether it’s the wooing stage, as in dating and attracting women, or the later stage, as in building incredible connections and experiences together, nobody ever really teaches us the intricacies of a healthy relationship.

Look, we weren’t taught how to build and cultivate happy and healthy relationships in school, but it’s certainly not too late to learn how to develop these skills now! The aforementioned tips are just what you need. They consist of the very best relationship, dating, and lifestyle experts in the world; all of whom possess incredibly esteemed backgrounds and track records of proven success.

If you’ve ever wanted to learn the foundations for creating fulfilled relationships, check out these 62 tips from these 62 amazing experts!

Of the 62 experts there were 13 males, 47 females and 2 couples. Most were dating coaches from the USA and had several years’ experience.

Most of the advice was for couples already in a relationship – communication, listen to your partner, include your partner, put her first, be yourself, be fun, keep the magic alive, and pay her attention.

For those without a partner and looking for dates the advice was mainly know what you want, go to places where you have the advantage, use dates to match values, know your motive for dating – long term or one night stand, be honest, both with yourself and her, learn to approach women, phone for dates rather than text, be a man – this is a big one, don’t spend a fortune on first dates and use dating sites as a last resort.

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What a woman wants from a man?

Achieve Your Dreams, the world’s pre-eminent site for supporting and promoting men, presents another insight into assisting men to find an attractive female lifetime partner.

This blog is intended for single and unattached heterosexual males over 18 years, looking for a monogamous relationship and caters to divorced, widowed and separated men who are looking to start another relationship.

Relationships aren’t easy, and I don’t think they ever were – they take work from both parties and it is our aim to assist men to find and keep an attractive female partner. This all starts with you, the guy and defining the relationship. You have to know what you are looking for; otherwise you will be distracted and may be tempted to choose a woman who may not be an ideal fit for you. For a relationship to last we need emotional ‘glue’ – often called ‘falling in love’, which happens when the emotions of love and sex combine and we think we have found someone who will fulfil our dreams. This is one of Nature’s tricks to propagate the species, and there are strong chemicals involved. On top of this we also need trust, honesty and respect, along with similar interests, values, views on lifestyle, rearing children, leisure time activities and money to name but a few. These are easy to define – just look forward a few years and imagine what you want in these areas of your life. To maximise your chances of success you need to know all this, especially if your relationship goals are to have a healthy relationship. The three main areas of contention in a relationship are money, politics and religion, in no special order – these are deep seated beliefs that you have both had for a long time and aren’t easily changed.

Ok, so you know what you want – what about what she wants. Read carefully for many guys get this wrong – because they want status they assume that she wants the same, and they get this horribly wrong. A woman is vulnerable, especially when she is pregnant or when she has small children and so she wants someone to protect her, be there for her, proves he is reliable and dependable. She wants to be the most important person in his life and outrank everything and everyone – your friends, family, work, customers, business, sport and hobbies ad infinitum. Women are feeling beings, so you have to make her feel when you meet her – make her feel good – compliment her, help her enjoy her time with you – make her laugh, do things you both like, show her you are there for the long term, not just a one night stand. Women are drawn to leaders, so if you lead a group meet her when you are with the group. She wants someone that she considers is slightly better than her, someone she can look up to, someone she can be proud of, someone who has good genes for her offspring and a winner in some area.

This is OK, because almost every guy can win in one area and has at least one talent and an area where they ‘star’ and they can constantly improve their status as they age. Try to arrange to meet her where you are at your best – if you’re a soccer star playing in a soccer match, if you a computer whizz, show her your prowess, it doesn’t matter where you star, you will have a better chance if you are winning or leading.

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Men’s Issues

What’s it like being a male in the 21st Century? Looking for comments here?

Have you ever been passed over for a promotion and it was given to a female? How did you feel? Details please

Have you ever had problems with female bosses or co workers? Were you treated fairly?

Have you ever had a divorce? Did the court treat you equitably?

Are you paying Child Support – do you consider it a fair amount?

Have you ever been charged or suspected of sexual harassment at work? Was it handled fairly, what was the outcome?

Do you think the media represents and treats males fairly, or do you think they paint a dark picture of males – ‘dole bludgers’, domestic violence is always shown with a man, child abuse is often shown with a male, even the phrase ‘Toxic Masculinity’, what is that, is there ‘Toxic Femininity’?

Have you ever noticed that females have lots of Government funded services, whereas male don’t – have you noticed females have lots of support for breast cancer, male have little or no support for prostate cancer? Do you think that is fair?

Have any comments about anything else?

I’m looking to build up a male network to support males, maybe in the future form a worldwide group and lobby for changes for the benefit of males. Looking for support and allies

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Personal Blind Spots – How to find and overcome them!

Achieve Your Dreams, Perth’s pre-eminent business coaching service, specialising in lead generation strategies to increase sales, customers and clients and give you, the business owner, greater success and control over your business, presents another insight into Business Coaching.

This week seems to have been all about self discovery, and I was fortunate to attend two short seminars this week. Despite my extensive knowledge I always manage to learn something from listening to others in the field and the speaker at the second seminar brought up the problems we all have with ‘personal blind spots’.

Every human has blind spots, and because it’s so difficult to see ourselves, most remain hidden for many years, despite the damage that they can do. The speaker said he had studied for personal growth for over 16 years – he had read many books, attended many seminars, lectures and workshops, but it wasn’t until he engaged a coach that he really began to make progress. Naturally, there are many people more than willing to point out our shortcomings, but we don’t often take them seriously – we often think they have an ulterior motive. He took his coach seriously and that helped him find some of his more prominent blind spots blind spots hidden from his view all his life.

Once he found these, he started to develop systems to assist others in achieving their goals. Below are some articles from the internet that may assist you.

Blind Spots in Personal Development

Blind spots (defined in the context of personal development) refers to the aspects of ourselves we aren’t fully conscious of. This can refer to a broad spectrum of different things — our traits, values, actions, idiosyncrasies, habits, feelings, thoughts, etc.

For example, let’s say you dislike people who are arrogant. Why? Your immediate response may be that they make you feel uncomfortable or they are overbearing. But these are just surface-level reasons. What is the deeper reason behind why arrogant people affect you?

This reason is usually beyond our immediate observation — we can only identify it when we probe deeper. Blind spots aren’t immediately observable to us because we are always seeing things from our view. On the other hand, when we tap into the perspectives of people who have known us for a while or someone who is trained to identify blind spots, like a life coach, we can learn a lot about ourselves.

Besides our beliefs and attitudes, blind spots also include our physiological behaviors.

For example, I have always talked really fast since I was young. Everyone I meet would point this out, especially during my school years. It was typical for people to say that my rate of speech is like “a bullet train.” People often asked if I was in the debating team. One of my friends suggested that I become a rap leader, which I thought was hilarious! Even then, while I heard their comments and acknowledged their opinions, I never fully registered it as true. Because in my head, my rate of speech didn’t seem fast at all.

That is, until I saw videos and audios of my own presentations. I still remember the first time I played back an audio recording of my voice. My immediate thought was, Why on earth is this person talking so fast? It was quite hilarious because that thought popped into my mind the instant I heard my voice. Despite knowing that I would be hearing my voice, I couldn’t identify with it. The rate of speech was beyond what I had heard before!

Even after this incident, I continue to be unconscious of my rate of speech for a large majority of the time, until people (usually acquaintances) comment on it. Today it still happens, though I’m much more aware of it than in the past. It’s something that I’m now more conscious of since I speak at events and conferences. I try to slow down during my presentations and speeches, but beyond that I stick to my original talking speed when with friends.

Why Uncover Blind Spots?

Why is it important to know your blind spots? Because it is a necessary part of your personal growth. Blind spots are things that you are unaware of. Identifying our blind spots and understanding them heighten our self-awareness.

When we develop a greater self-awareness, we become more aligned with our higher selves, which means a greater self-mastery. Getting a personal coach is an excellent way to uncover your own blind spots so that you can improve.

Blind spots aren’t necessarily negative traits or weaknesses, though they usually are. When you are oblivious to something, there is a high likelihood that (1) you have never worked on it before, which leaves an opportunity for improvement, and (2) it serves as an invisible boundary that limits what you can do. For example, if you are not aware that you have poor time management skills, you will always operate within the confines of poor planning and prioritization, without knowing that it’s due to your lack of said skills. Or if you are not aware that you have poor communication skills, you may often feel frustrated when communicating with others, without realizing that it’s due to the gaps in said skills.

When you uncover your blind spots and actively work on them, you become more conscious of your strengths and opportunity areas, and the boundaries that you are operating within. If you don’t uncover these blind spots, you will never be able to work on them, simply because you aren’t aware of their existence.

As someone who is passionate about growth, I’m always on the lookout for situations when I feel resistance or when my consciousness is lowered, as it indicates a blind spot. On my blog, I open myself to feedback that I receive from readers, whether positive or negative. During my 1-1 coaching, I would encourage my clients to provide feedback to help improve the coaching sessions.

Over the years, I’ve uncovered many blind spots and worked on them. In the past, my neurotic perfectionism often resulted in myopia and ineffective work patterns, which hindered me from achieving greater results. It also made me an angsty person, which I didn’t like. My emotional stinginess also made me an unpleasant and selfish person. These blocked me from being the person I wanted to be. It was by consciously work on these blind spots that I’ve worked on these issues and improved as a person.

Just like growth is a lifelong journey, the process of uncovering blind spots never ends. With every blind spot that we identify and tackle, there is always a next blind spot to uncover. Due to the vastness of our mind and the infinite nature of growth, it is impossible to identify every single blind spot within us, right now. What’s more important is to work on improving every second, every moment, as we move forward in our life’s journey.

https://personalexcellence.co/blog/blind-spots/

How to Recognize Your Personal Blind Spot

MONDAY, JUNE 23, 2014 BY LAURA L. FINE LIVING WELL IN CORPORATE WELLNESS

Last week at a meeting with my staff I evoked a lot of intense feelings! When someone on my staff gets frustrated with me I pay close attention. Am I listening with full attention? Am I not following through? It takes self-reflection for me to seek the grain of truth or mountain of truth in their reactivity. Yep, it was true, I was sloppy in a really important area. I worked hard the following week to stay on point and not be sloppy. A wonderfully productive week ensued. I have a great staff! They have the courage to point out my blind spots and I have to courage to tolerate the intense feelings that arise in me and listen to what they have to say while maintaining my leadership.

Here are a few ways I practice seeing my blind spot:

Problem! Pay close attention to the reactions I evoke in others. Do you evoke frustration? Jealousy? Withdraw? Curiosity? Laughter? Warmth? Respect? If so, what do you have to maneuver inside yourself to tolerate the sensations in order to stay present and connected even if it’s uncomfortable?

Solution: Notice your emotional reactivity with an attitude of curiosity and wonder. Take a step back and observe your body, your breathing and your emotions. It can be helpful to detach by writing down what you feel.

Problem! Go in to the stuck place and find movement there. If I feel locked in a situation with no way out and feel trapped – instead of resisting it, I look for wiggle room within it. If you have a piano with only 3 working keys, there’s still a way to make music. There are some work days that are so demanding, I must be careful with my thoughts. Instead of internally complaining, whatever the limitation, instead of fighting it, I look to find new possibilities that live within it.

Solution: Take 2 minute meditation break. If driving somewhere and traffic is awful, pull to the side of the road for 60 seconds and deep breathe and pray. If I’m too tired to complete a project and I don’t have enough time to rest, I’ll force myself to take a long bathroom break and make it include a walk around the block with deep breathing. I’ll feel a shift inside so that my inner traffic can flow even if the outer traffic is a mess!

Problem! Notice the qualities I have no tolerance for in others. If I don’t like someone’s attitude, I’ll work on my own. I used to have a client who was consistently late. It would evoke great irritation in me. I learned to use those opportunities to find the places where I am late. This was tough because I have a lot of pride about ‘never’ being late and yet, there is one friend who I am consistently late for any time we schedule together. Hmmmm. When I look at that more deeply, I feel this person has a subtle way of ‘pulling’ at me that I find myself wanting to pull away from.

Solution: Give my full respect to those I feel intolerant of and look for direct ways to set boundaries. When I communicate clearly about how much time I can give (before I reach my emotional limit), our communication is more clear and clean.

Problem! Expect a knee jerk of denial about having a blind spot. This is due to shame. Shame is one of the most rejectable hidden human emotions. It’s connected directly to our essential self. The pure goodness of our essential self may look like: being spontaneously creative, expressing love toward someone or something. When our essential self learned to feel rejected (typically tracking back to early childhood), we experienced deep shame. Shame is often covered by fear. Fear often evokes procrastination. Procrastination sucks the life force right out of us.

Solution: Make a bee line toward fear. When faced with confrontations and uncomfortable feelings, I’m still shaking in my shoes while making a bee line toward the fear. I’ve learned I won’t die from emotional feelings, they are just sensations. I’ve gotten comfortable with being uncomfortable.

It’s an art and skill to learn to tolerate the energy of certain emotional sensations. The good news is this can be learned. If you’d like to learn How to Use Energy Healing To Release Emotional Blocks you can read more HERE. We’re never too old to learn something new!

https://www.mindbodyonline.com/blog/corporate-wellness/living-well/how-to-recognize-your-personal-blind-spot

Understanding Personal Blind Spots and How to Make Them Work For You

A company may have the most advanced technology and the best product in the market, but it is essentially the people within the firm that make it great. Hiring the right fit in itself is challenging, and the process doesn’t end once that person is appointed. Engaging the hired talent, together with building on their strengths and overcoming their personal blind spots are all part and parcel of the process of talent development which in turn, affects talent retention.

We all know that focusing on people’s strengths has a positive effect on morale and performance. But have we considered the angle of going overboard, and causing negative side-effects? Consider the following:

  • Using strengths as an excuse to avoid uncomfortable discussions with employees.For example, “Everyone knows that he is difficult to work with and shirks his responsibilities. No one wants to work with him and clients complain about him, but he’s a really good analyst. Let’s not rock the boat.”
  • Hiding behind strengths as an excuse for bad behavior.For example, “I’m sorry that I snapped at you. I have a short fuse. That’s just how I am. Social sensitivity is not my strength, you’ll just have to accept that.”

On the flipside, blind spots shouldn’t always have a negative connotation to it. They should be included in the self-awareness and development process. Acknowledging that every strength has a blind spot is essential in self-improvement and is the fundamental step to advancement.

Here are some ways that I believe acknowledging strengths and personal blind spots can be beneficial:

  • Practical applications, methodical practices, and details come naturally to me, but at times, I miss the big picture and sometimes forget why I’m actually working on a task or how my actions affect the entire operation. Is there someone in my team who can nudge me to appreciate a wider perspective?

 

  • Data researching and in-depth study of an issue is a natural go-to for me. However, I may be analysing too deeply and overthinking the matter. Did I consider how others might feel about the issue before acting on it?

 

  • I’m pretty intuitive about people and social decisions, and because of this, I make decisions based on relationships too often. For example, “Will doing this make them unhappy?” This may not always be beneficial to the organisation. Is there a process or proper channel I should be looking into before jumping to a firm decision?

 

  • Exciting new ideas and visions about the future come to me very often, I tell the team about them and explain the goal at the end. However, working on the details to reaching the goal is exhausting and confusing. Is there a process within reaching that goal that I should be considering which is not feasible or takes more time to conceptualise?

 

We all have individual strengths and personal blind spots, and there are many ways to make them work for us rather than against us. Don’t be afraid to discover yours and embrace them.

https://www.emergenetics.com/blog/personal-blind-spots-strengths/

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